10 Things You Need to Know About Dating an Architect
You’ve got one in the bag, or you’re looking to snap one up, you’re excited about a potential new life with a creative genius. But what is it really like dating an architect, and are these folk for you? Below we have delved into 10 things you
should need to know about dating architects, and who knows, there could even be a few tips therein which could land you your lifelong dream partner. Now I know it’s not really politically correct to paint an entire vertical profession with the same paintbrush, some points will ring true in your own experiences and some will not: Thus is the color of life.
The fact of the matter is that a lot of architects aren’t rolling around on a bed of money. So if you’re looking for a Daddy Warbucks or proverbial Scrooge McDuck you may be a little disappointed. Sure, there are some architects who have made it to the big time, like Renzo Piano, the architect who designed The Shard in London; I’m sure he’s rolling in it as he was voted as one of the top 100 influential people in the world in 2006 by Time magazine; but chances are you’re not looking to date somebody quite like him, as he’s 76… or are you!? ‘Alls I’m sayin’!!
While the average architect might not have a huge income, most have this one and very precious trait; they are frugal. This is not to say they are penny pinching cheapskates, on the contrary, they have class, they have finesse which means they don’t like to wash money down the drain by purchasing shabby, substandard items.
Furthermore, when looking for that perfect partner, it’s not all about where they are right now financially; the important thing is that they have a solid, well balanced and educated financial mind-set which will stand them in good stead in the future. Would you rather be with somebody who doesn’t plan for the future, or somebody who does; and as you know, architects are master planners and can execute those plans with precision.
2. Articulation & Solid Reasoning
Architects appreciate considered thinkers who can articulate their thoughts into words in a concise manner. If you make a statement that could seem a little flaky, the chances are it could annoy them. If you’re talking with an architect and you get onto the subject of let’s say, Steve Irwin the Crocodile Hunter, and you say that you loved him; please realize the architect wants more.
The devil is in the detail; they’re detail orientated, they look into matters deeply: How do you think they create such beautiful masterful creations!? Therefore, expand on your ideas, ‘I love Steve Irwin, he had an energetic passion for life that is rarely seen, and it’s because of his unique joyful approach to life why I gravitate towards him’.
Architects will appreciate an explanation to ideas, so don’t leave them frustrated. If you don’t have a way with words, practice. Research has shown that as vocabulary increases, so does IQ; “A person’s vocabulary will predict with very high accuracy how well they score on an IQ test.” You don’t even have to try to learn either. Just stick a dictionary next to your toilet: Effortless education.
It seems architects harness the strength of both intellectual and emotional intelligence.
3. Wondering Eyes
Architects have an insatiable hunger to look upon exquisite and inspirational works of architectural genius. Their minds race with creativity and questions. For example, I was with an Iranian architect in the Empire State Building in New York: I could tell his mind was in a state of overload. ‘How many brocks do you think are in this building’, he asked me. I knew he meant bricks, but the point being is his mind was on a majestic search for understanding and knowledge.
So when you’re out with your architect partner, why not do something they will appreciate and ask them, with a genuine interest about the building you just passed or are dining in; unless they are sick and tired of work, in which case you’ll want to avoid work talk!
This desire to gaze upon greatness can possibly have a real knock on effect in your life, as it could influence the occasional holiday, weekend trip and date decision.
They notice things which most other people don’t see; they perceive and view life through a special pair of glasses, where everything has that little bit more color, life and pizzazz.
4. Positively Flawed
Don’t let the title mislead you. Just like a designer who will verbally judge designs, like font, saying things like, ‘Helvetica: Typical…’… ‘Another company using a font for their logo: Boring’, architects are of a similar breed. They might say they like a particular piece of work, but quite often they will start to verbally think how they would have done it, pointing out potential flaws or where the design falls short.
Some architects do this more than others, but I’m sure there isn’t one architect living on this planet that hasn’t done this at least once; therefore be prepared for an impartation of architectural opinion. I personally love it.
Let’s reel of some examples I’ve personally heard,
- ‘See that building there, an absolute classic example of 1970’s architecture: I don’t know what the architects were thinking back then’.
- ‘I like the fact a balcony has been added, but why wasn’t it made longer to span the width of the apartment?’
- ‘It’s a stunning apartment but there isn’t enough light. I would have made the entire wall into a window, which would let in much more natural light.’
5. A Show Home
Architects appreciate and find a beautiful home to be important. I think this is a given, but it’s an important factor to take into consideration when weighing up the perfect spouse. I think that most people would like to live in a house that is well designed through and through. The atmosphere it creates is refreshing and mentally liberating when compared to the drab alternatives out there.
What would you prefer, inviting your friends over to a house that looks like it needs to be decorated with a demolition ball, or to a house that is designed and kept with excellence? If this is important for you, then an architect (or designer for that matter), holds the master key in this area of life; just another feather in their bushy cap of feathers!
But don’t just assume that because their profession is to design buildings that theirs represents the quality they produce for their clients. Like the saying goes, ‘the shoe maker’s son has no shoes’, sometimes the architect neglects his own house.
6. Oozing with Passion & Determination
Architects are quite often full of passion and zest. Their minds have been chiseled with an archetypal eagerness to live life with creative supremacy.
It takes a long time to study as an architect, five or more years in some cases, which requires a vast measure of perseverance and applied will.
Do you want to be with somebody who is dry, boring, directionless and apathetic? Chances are you don’t. If I were to compare an architect with a candy, I would say they are those delectable gourmet jellybeans: There are so many different varieties of the same thing, yet each and every one of those beans is exploding with flavor and character.
If you’re on a date with them, why not strike up a conversation about something you consider to be creative and arty; expect a hearty response.
7. The Love of Coffee
The love of coffee is the root of all architects. Contemplating all of the architects that I know, it’s glaringly evident they all seem to have one thing in common and that’s they all
like cherish their coffee. You might hear some people say they’re super picky with their coffee, but from my experience, it’s just a general adorn for the drink.
All of them prefer a good quality ground or bean coffee over instant coffee, that’s a given, but when in need of that extra edge some of them are willing to go instant just for the caffeine benefits.
What better way to impress an architect on a first date by taking them to a coffee house and striking up a natural conversation about coffee. At least learn the basics about coffee, what bean instant coffee is made from (Robusta beans) and what higher quality ground coffees are made from (Arabica beans). These basics will impress and they will color your own personal coffee experience throughout life.
So in short; architects have an affinity towards (good) coffee. Below I have included a quick infographic which’ll give you some good conversational weapons.
8. Good With Their Hands
This is a very handy one (forgive the pun), but it’s nice knowing that your prospective future partner is good with their hands isn’t it. Just think of all the benefits. I know, I was thinking the same thing; can you imagine how good they will make your future children’s school (or science fair) project look!
But seriously, architects are generally good at building things, which if they wish, could put to good use around the home, yet I hear a lot tend not to. This could be because of they tend to strive for perfection which can turn an ordinary molehill of a project into one of Everest proportions, which can be mentally exhausting for an impatient partner.
9. Astute Learners & Hungry for More
Never satisfied with their current state, architects are always striving for more from themselves and subsequently life. It’s probably one of the few professions where more often than not, the average person is vibrant in the personal development, constantly moving forwards.
It’s been said by the late Jim Rohn that the definition of success is ‘steady progress toward one’s personal goals’ through ‘a few simple disciplines practiced every day’. If this is so, then I believe architects have hit the nail on the head. Not inhibited by inertia, not in a state of stagnation, but clear in their thinking, knowing what they want, investing into themselves week in and week out.
This is one of the reasons why I appreciate being around architects, because they realize that success isn’t so much based on the things that you can count, but rather the things that you can’t count. It’s who you become that is the key, and they know this, which can be witnessed through their eagerness to read, learn, and absorb new ideas.
10. Architect Friends
Be prepared to spend a lot of time with their architecture friends. But don’t be concerned, some of the same traits that you like and appreciate in the architect you are dating will be noticeable in other architects to some degree or another.
I think this can be said across all professions that your spouse will have a high proportion of friends in the same industry in which they work, as they spend all day developing relationships with these people. I have a lot of friend who work for Google, and I often hear them say, ‘She’s an NGF’, as in a ‘Non Google Friend’. They say this because most of their friends are Googler’s, therefore, if you want to be with an architect, be prepare to spend a lot of time with architects and their insider lingo and jokes: Learn to love it!